Homemaker. Domestic Engineer. Stay at Home Mom. Call it what you want, I’ve always wanted to be one.
I’m also tired of hearing, “It must be so nice for you, not having to work.” Come on. If you think being a SAHM isn’t work, please try it. You are on beck & call 24/7 without pay, holidays, or annual bonuses.
That being said, I love being a SAHM, and yes, I believe in women’s rights, too! I stay home because it is MY choice. And if I wanted to work, my husband would be supportive of that decision, too. I don’t want anyone to think that I stay home because my husband tells me to raise our children and cook his meals. I mean, I do raise our son and fix his meals, but that’s because he goes to work, and because when he tries to be sweet and prepare food for us he reaches for the wrong chicken in a fridge that desperately needs to be cleaned out and nearly poisons us. Thus, almost orphaning our son. That’s a good enough reason to be the one that makes the meals, right? Yes, this really happened last weekend. My poor well intentioned husband used the wrong chicken. Luckily the smell of the food alerted us that something was amiss and we didn’t eat…much.
Anyways, what I’m trying to say is that we have an equal exchange and our marriage is based on compromise. We love each other and support each other. While I might look like a 1950’s housewife, I guarantee that our marriage is not built on those same principles. Even though he is the one that technically works for our money, it is ours. Not his. He doesn’t lord it over me. I feel like that is another misconception of the SAHM “career.” “Well, you don’t have your own income, so how can your husband see you as an equal?” Honestly, in our case, my staying home SAVES us money. We are not paying for childcare. If I was working, a large portion of my income would go straight to paying for someone else to raise our son. Where is the sense in that?
My husband might bring home the bread, but if I didn’t prepare it, we’d all die. It’s a TEAM EFFORT!