I guess I always kind-of figured I’d be a stay-at-home-mom at some point in my life. You know, after college, after establishing myself in the world as a newspaper writer or at a publishing house pouring over manuscripts and meeting up with friends at fancy bars in the evenings. I’m not sure if I’m in the minority or the majority, but at 20 years old with a 4 year college degree, I saw the whole world awaiting me. I thought I must be destined for some level of greatness after working my butt off to complete both high school and college in 3 years each, but after graduation, I found myself restless and unsure of what to do with a brand new shiny English degree.
Newspapers were definitely not hiring and while San Antonio has many perks, a plethora of publishing houses to work in was not one of them. I opted for leaving my hometown behind and starting a new adventure where I knew just one person in Washington State. It was heaven. If you’ve never been to WA, the trees alone are glorious, but it was everything that I fell in love with. Every time I stepped into one of their National Parks, I was blown away. The two years I spent in WA are some of my fondest memories. After all, I met my husband there. Our whirlwind romance, quick engagement, and unexpected pregnancy in the midst of planning our wedding make for a great story. This story might not have been the one I laid out for myself at 20, but seven years later, I’m so happy it’s mine.
What they don’t tell you is there are so many different paths to take in your life. I always imagined mine in a very linear manner with everything just so.
What actually happened.
I feel like what that “loosely based on my life” timeline shows is that life is going to throw so many unexpected events at you and you just have to take it in stride and make the best of it. Did I want to be 6 months pregnant at my wedding? Not so much, no. Would I trade my son for the world? Absolutely not! His existence, planned or not, has always been one of the best things in my life. Would it have been nice to have been an established career woman prior to having a family? Yup, definitely. But would I be blogging on my own platform for the last 4 years if my life had gone differently? I bet the answer to that is no, too. And I definitely would not be a SeneGence Boss Babe, which would’ve been a huge shame because I have met so many inspiring and kind women, both fellow distributors & my customers just by being open to the unexpected.
So, what have I learned? Having plans and goals is all fine and well, but learning to go with the flow is valuable also. I have so many more amazing things in my life than I ever dreamed up for myself. And more importantly, they’re real. They are tangible instead of just some vague hopes I had when I was younger. I have an amazing husband. He’s my best friend and our main financial provider. We have two children that are as close to perfection as you can get. Their intelligence, humor, and unique little personalities are so far past what I could’ve imagined for my potential children that I could not possibly be anything but grateful for our life together.
I guess what I’m trying to say is sometimes you’re going to feel like your life has veered in the wrong direction, but ultimately you’re going to find yourself exactly where you were meant to be.